My strongest advice for you after your marriage is to keep the quality of your love relationship with your husband as your highest priority. Very importantly, share this article with your Good Man well before your marriage. Encourage him to make the same commitment to you. As a couple, promise to remain conscious of the quality of your relationship as the most important thing to you, individually and together.

It is too easy to allow the quality of your marriage to slip to a lower priority. Careers, friends, in-laws, children, and hobbies will all tug at your kimono sleeve to demand your time and attention. This is life. It is full of things other than your relationship that can command your focus. As an American Geisha, you have a more difficult undertaking than does the Asian Geisha, who can keep her clients as her highest priority because she does not marry or plan a family. You marry and want a family, yet you probably also have a job or even an engaging career that pulls your attention away from your relationship with your Good Man husband. Fight successfully to maintain an active love life. Stay beautiful and feminine. Always be nice to each other.

Even your children should be a second priority. They should come some distance behind your priority of maintaining a deep, mutual love relationship with your Good Man. Remember, as a psychologist once said, 'The very best thing mothers or fathers can do for their children is to be actively, enthusiastically, and mutually in love with their spouses.'

Another part of keeping your marriage as your highest priority is to celebrate your anniversary. Make it a memorable day of renewal of your love and commitment to one another. Perhaps return to your honeymoon spot. Review your original wedding vows. Write new, updated vows. Stay excited about your mutual love.