Before you'll be meeting new single women for love and romance, take an inventory of the things that are important to you, and that you'd like to talk about. What are you excited about now? What changes are taking place in your life? What have been the most important events or people in your life? What future plans are you most enthusiastic about? Why do you feel the way you do about things? What are your concerns? What is your vision for the future? What are your likes and preferences?

The answers to these questions tell her how you relate to the world around you. Be specific, so that your conversational partner gets a lot of free information to pick up on. Communicate your enthusiasm. Disclose some of your feelings and values.

Some Fall-Backs For Shy Men

If you're shy and have trouble talking to single women, it helps to be prepared with things to talk about. Besides the things that are most important to you, here are sources for conversational fuel:

1. Come up with 3 or 4 interesting or exciting things that have happened to you recently. Practice telling these stories on family or friends, or practice in front of a mirror or with a tape recorder.

2. Read current newspapers and magazines, and be prepared to talk about events that interest you.

3. Collect a couple of sure-fire, inoffensive jokes.

4. Become knowledgeable about what's going on in your city. People always want to know more about what's happening locally.

5. See current movies and read current books. You're bound to find single women who have seen the same movies or read the same books.